The solution for male autists?

[BadLuck7892]

It's been said on this forum that a foid (even an autistic foid) is biologically programmed to be repulsed by autistic men.

Which begs the question: What are us male autists supposed to do with this information?

It's impossible for us to simply stop being autistic.

Are we supposed to merely accept inceldom/escortceldom?

Are we supposed to dumpster dive for ugly fatties?

Or is there perhaps some cheat code (for us to succeed) I don't know about? And no, don't say "Just become wealthy." The vast majority of us will never be Elon Musk or Mark Zuckerberg. Besides, becoming wealthy helps neurotypical men have better luck with the ladies too (therefore the "become wealthy" strategy isn't even specific to autistic men)

 

[uksucks]

Geomax to countries with a cultural barrier and a language barrier so they are more focused on their own English and chalk it down to that rather than being autist

People who say take drugs don't realise that shyness/high inhib is the tip of the iceberg with autism, it's not even remotely the biggest problem vs body language, tonality, facial expressions etc...

Will be testing it this yr

 

[irishltn]

It's been said on this forum that a foid (even an autistic foid) is biologically programmed to be repulsed by autistic men.

Which begs the question: What are us male autists supposed to do with this information?

It's impossible for us to simply stop being autistic.

Are we supposed to merely accept inceldom/escortceldom?

Are we supposed to dumpster dive for ugly fatties?

Or is there perhaps some cheat code (for us to succeed) I don't know about? And no, don't say "Just become wealthy." The vast majority of us will never be Elon Musk or Mark Zuckerberg. Besides, becoming wealthy helps neurotypical men have better luck with the ladies too (therefore the "become wealthy" strategy isn't even specific to autistic men)

I would say substances but then again that can make some autistic people behave even more autistically

 

[BadLuck7892]

Geomax to countries with a cultural barrier and a language barrier so they are more focused on their own English and chalk it down to that rather than being autist

People who say take drugs don't realise that shyness/high inhib is the tip of the iceberg with autism, it's not even remotely the biggest problem vs body language, tonality, facial expressions etc...

Will be testing it this yr

Well-said. Our shyness/high inbition is merely a symptom of a much larger disease.

Even though the song has nothing to do with autism, I can relate to the AM Taxi song that goes "I guess something much larger than life is holding you back"

Interestingly, even though I've never geomaxxed, I've had some luck stateside with Latinas whose English is subpar.

 

[BadLuck7892]

I would say substances but then again that can make some autistic people behave even more autistically

Not looking to use drugs or alcohol in an attempt to hide my autism.

As the other poster said, substances are an unrealistic solution.

 

[Mr_Bombo_mogs]

I would say substances but then again that can make some autistic people behave even more autistically

espicially weed and thats one of the used most recurational drug

 

[BadLuck7892]

I thought of one solution (which will unfortunately never be implemented): If only there were apprenticeships for dating.

Male autists with above-average looks like me will sometimes be able to get our foot in the door with a foid based on our looks. We have a hard time keeping the foid, however (because our autistic qualities drive her away)

As a rule of thumb, the foids I've genuinely wanted to stay with have lost interest in me quickly, while the foids I don't want to be with remain high interest level (I end up having to dump these foids, as they're unbearable to be with)

Anyway, as for why I recommend apprenticeships: Because if you're (for example) a plumber's apprentice, the experienced plumber you're working for understands you won't get it right 100% of the time. He's highly unlikely to fire you simply because you did one thing wrong. He'll turn your error into a learning experience.

And in the rare case you mess up so severely the plumber has to fire you, I guarantee he'll tell you why he fired you.

On the other hand, any foid worth being with will (unfortunately) fire an autistic boyfriend the first time he does something "wrong." And the foid won't even tell us why. So we're left wondering what we did wrong.

If there were dating apprenticeships, however, we'd have the peace-of-mind of knowing a foid won't fire us on our first offense. And the foid would use our offense as a learning experience to teach us what to do differently (which would benefit us in that relationship as well as any relationships we have with other foids down the line)

For our sake and the sake of any foids we get involved with, dating apprenticeships really are a superb idea.

 

[BadLuck7892]

espicially weed and thats one of the used most recurational drug

In middle school, I remember some guy at my school thought I was on drugs. Because autistic mannerisms can sometimes be similar to the mannerisms of someone who's high on drugs.

Ironically, the guy who thought I was on drugs in middle school turned into a total stoner with dreads (despite being White) in high school.

 

[uksucks]

I thought of one solution (which will unfortunately never be implemented): If only there were apprenticeships for dating.

Male autists with above-average looks like me will sometimes be able to get our foot in the door with a foid based on our looks. We have a hard time keeping the foid, however (because our autistic qualities drive her away)

As a rule of thumb, the foids I've genuinely wanted to stay with have lost interest in me quickly, while the foids I don't want to be with remain high interest level (I end up having to dump these foids, as they're unbearable to be with)

Anyway, as for why I recommend apprenticeships: Because if you're (for example) a plumber's apprentice, the experienced plumber you're working for understands you won't get it right 100% of the time. He's highly unlikely to fire you simply because you did one thing wrong. He'll turn your error into a learning experience.

And in the rare case you mess up so severely the plumber has to fire you, I guarantee he'll tell you why he fired you.

On the other hand, any foid worth being with will (unfortunately) fire an autistic boyfriend the first time he does something "wrong." And the foid won't even tell us why. So we're left wondering what we did wrong.

If there were dating apprenticeships, however, we'd have the peace-of-mind of knowing a foid won't fire us on our first offense. And the foid would use our offense as a learning experience to teach us what to do differently (which would benefit us in that relationship as well as any relationships we have with other foids down the line)

For our sake and the sake of any foids we get involved with, dating apprenticeships really are a superb idea.

Very true and brutal

No girl ever told me why she rejected or ghosted me or flaked.

At least others get some closure if she says you're too short, or I don't date men of this race, but nah I'm just weird and make them uneasy and not GL enough to compensate

 

[BadLuck7892]

Very true and brutal

No girl ever told me why she rejected or ghosted me or flaked.

At least others get some closure if she says you're too short, or I don't date men of this race, but nah I'm just weird and make them uneasy and not GL enough to compensate

I even had a foid threaten to rat me out to the cops for demanding to know what made her change her mind (when the foid told me the day of our tentative 1st date that the date was no longer on)

The foid viewed it as "harassment" to demand to know what made her change her mind. Unreal. If the foid really had such a good reason, she should have an easy time justifying her reason to me.

 

[BadLuck7892]

Come to think of it, even with platonic male friendships, there have been times when dudes have ended a friendship (or rejected a friendship with me) for reasons totally unknown to me.

Being an autist sucks.