Would you date a girl with no personality?

[Big Boss]

Lets say your girlfriend was physically attractive and loyal and virgin, but she had the personality of a brick wall and you find talking to her extremely boring. Would you still want the LTR? Or marriage? Or is it a non negotiable to you that she must be interesting/fun to talk to

 

[Big Boss]

Over for brick brah

 

[buddymaxxing]

"would you spend time with a person you don't enjoy spending time with" nigga we can't fuck for 16h a day, dumbass question

 

[Big Boss]

"would you spend time with a person you don't enjoy spending time with" nigga we can't fuck for 16h a day, dumbass question

Why

 

[Big Boss]

@sphenoidnr @TheGreatDetective why yes?

 

[TheGreatDetective]

My first gf was giga boring, but she was also a virgin, and it was the purest relationship i've ever had. Outgoing, bubbly girls are a lot of fun to be with but in my experience most of them are hoes. So i'll pick the boring girl i'll make her do fun activities with me

 

[Drib]

Just cheat on her with a girl that has a good personality and when u get horny go back to her

 

[Big Boss]

My first gf was giga boring, but she was also a virgin, and it was the purest relationship i've ever had. Outgoing, bubbly girls are a lot of fun to be with but in my experience most of them are hoes. So i'll pick the boring girl i'll make her do fun activities with me

Interesting perspective, you never fail to make me think

 

[iblamemycuriuosity]

Acting like i got a choice i have been a virgin for 18 years

 

[808AmnesiaLuver]

Lets say your girlfriend was physically attractive and loyal and virgin, but she had the personality of a brick wall and you find talking to her extremely boring. Would you still want the LTR? Or marriage? Or is it a non negotiable to you that she must be interesting/fun to talk to

depends if she got ass or tits jfl

 

[u3h]

Lets say your girlfriend was physically attractive and loyal and virgin, but she had the personality of a brick wall and you find talking to her extremely boring. Would you still want the LTR? Or marriage? Or is it a non negotiable to you that she must be interesting/fun to talk to

no

 

[Big Boss]

Acting like i got a choice i have been a virgin for 18 years

You think you are the boss?!? You are solid snake. I am big boss.

Have u kissed or held hands with a woman?

 

[vigor]

Lets say your girlfriend was physically attractive and loyal and virgin, but she had the personality of a brick wall and you find talking to her extremely boring. Would you still want the LTR? Or marriage? Or is it a non negotiable to you that she must be interesting/fun to talk to

no
your wife is probably going to be the person you spend the most time with for the next 50 years of your life
there is no love without personal compatibility
anything else is just a bangmaid

 

[TheGreatDetective]

Interesting perspective, you never fail to make me think

I used to think having a girl with very similar hobbies, interests, and an overall fun personality was such a big deal. Then i actually dated girls like that and realized it doesn't really matter in the long term. Yeah it's extremely fun to hang out with them but at the end of the day, a relationship isn't built on playing games together or talking for hours about your fav hobbies. It's built on commitment and loyalty, if she's a virgin (giga hard challenge)

It reminds me of that Sam Hyde quote ''If you need your woman to like, align with you completely. Cause you know who's gonna. You know who's gonna align with you completely? A man. A man with aspergers''

 

[DrRodger]

No, id want to talk to her casually and stuff

 

[Big Boss]

I used to think having a girl with very similar hobbies, interests, and an overall fun personality was such a big deal. Then i actually dated girls like that and realized it doesn't really matter in the long term. Yeah it's extremely fun to hang out with them but at the end of the day, a relationship isn't built on playing games together or talking for hours about your fav hobbies. It's built on commitment and loyalty, if she's a virgin (giga hard challenge)

What would you say to the argument that you’ll spend most of your time talking to her?

Im currently struggling with this dilemma cos my girlfriend on paper is perfect, 5’11 mtb-htb, virgin, loyal yet i just find talking to her super boring.

Meanwhile my ex, and this is gonn make your point sound even more true, my ex and me had insane compatibility in terms of communication and humour and energy etc, but she was also a rape victim, bpd, hypergamous, still a virgin but just felt less trustworthy long term. As in it mightve worked long term but it was uncertain, my current gf is almost certain she wants to get married to me asap. Its weird because they are the same looks level but something as simple as a good personality makes me miss my ex often, idk if its the grass is greener paradox or just im incompatible with my current gf/bored. Maybe im the hypergamous foid

 

[sphenoidnr]

@sphenoidnr @TheGreatDetective why yes?

As long as the bitch is hot am good

 

[iblamemycuriuosity]

You think you are the boss?!? You are solid snake. I am big boss.

Have u kissed or held hands with a woman?

No never tried to approach a foid

 

[leorknight27]

After like 3 days with one of these girls it gets unbearable hell no

 

[leorknight27]

rape victim, bpd, hypergamous, still a virgin

Rape victim but still a virgin?

 

[TheGreatDetective]

What would you say to this argument below?

Depends on what he means by personal compatibility. If he means shared core values and long term goals then yeah i agree. That was actually my original point.
A lot of people conflate that with having a girl who shares your hobbies and interests and is fun to talk to. But from what i've seen, most high quality girls are boring as shit. They're almost a blank slate because they haven't absorbed the personalities of previous boyfriends. Again, not always, but most of the times from what i've seen

Im currently struggling with this dilemma cos my girlfriend on paper is perfect, 5’11 mtb-htb, virgin, loyal yet i just find talking to her super boring.

Meanwhile my ex, and this is gonn make your point sound even more true, my ex and me had insane compatibility in terms of communication and humour and energy etc, but she was also a rape victim, bpd, hypergamous, still a virgin but just felt less trustworthy long term. As in it mightve worked long term but it was uncertain, my current gf is almost certain she wants to get married to me asap. Its weird because they are the same looks level but something as simple as a good personality makes me miss my ex often, idk if its the grass is greener paradox or just im incompatible with my current gf/bored. Maybe im the hypergamous foid

You should stick with her. I had the same problem with my first girlfriend. I remember thinking 'God dayum she's boring as shit Am i really going to spend the rest of my life with her?'

But looking back now, my time with her was extremely sweet, innocent, and pure. Sure it was also boring at times. My advice is to try doing fun activities with your current girlfriend. If she doesn't want to do one thing, that's fine, just ask if she'd rather do something else. That's what i should've done with my first girlfriend, but i was too inexperienced back then

Both of my last two exes were basically carbon copies of me but guess what. Those relationships still went to shit.
One of them was a neet gamer girl who was diagnosed with BPD (among other stuff) just like your ex. Eventually she started splitting, and the relationship fell apart.
My last ex, who i strongly suspect also had bpd even though she was never diagnosed, was a super bubbly cashier who also loved rotting with me on long calls while we played games. But that relationship also went to shit because she was be really immature and spoiled sometimes

They were both giga clingy, which i actually liked tbh. But the core values just weren't there and that's why the relationships ultimately failed

It really is a grass is greener situation. If you break up with her you'll most likely look back on it and regret it.
People have to be realistic. Finding a virgin girl nowadays is already hard, but finding one who's also fun and bubbly is almost impossible

Which way, modern man? The boring virgin girl, or will you try your luck with the fun girl who has multiple bodies?

Choose wisely G

In case someone doesn't know what splitting is

BPD Splitting Can Harm Relationships

Splitting is a symptom of borderline personality disorder where a person is unable to hold opposing thoughts and sees everything as black or white.

www.verywellmind.com

 

[Big Boss]

Depends on what he means by personal compatibility. If he means shared core values and long term goals then yeah i agree. That was actually my original point.

I think what he meant was chemistry/communication compatibility, like having entertaining conversations

A lot of people conflate that with having a girl who shares your hobbies and interests and is fun to talk to. But from what i've seen, most high quality girls are boring as shit.

True

They're almost a blank slate because they haven't absorbed the personalities of previous boyfriends. Again, not always, but most of the times from what i've seen

Good points. Its really sad that often girls with good personalities are just the ones who have absorbed it from their previous bfs, ive thought about that before and it made me realise that was likely the case with my ex.

You should stick with her. I had the same problem with my first girlfriend. I remember thinking 'God dayum she's boring as shit Am i really going to spend the rest of my life with her?'

But looking back now, my time with her was extremely sweet, innocent, and pure. Sure it was also boring at times. My advice is to try doing fun activities with your current girlfriend. If she doesn't want to do one thing, that's fine, just ask if she'd rather do something else. That's what i should've done with my first girlfriend, but i was too inexperienced back then

I will genuinely take that advice. Im naturally a fun person and like do exciting things, i just havent had much opportunity because of certain circumstances recently but when i can i will try. Ive always thought alot of relationships end simply because people stop putting in the effort to make it fun/interesting

Both of my last two exes were basically carbon copies of me but guess what. Those relationships still went to shit.
One of them was a neet gamer girl who was diagnosed with BPD (among other stuff) just like your ex. Eventually she started splitting, and the relationship fell apart.
My last ex, who i strongly suspect also had bpd even though she was never diagnosed, was a super bubbly cashier who also loved rotting with me on long calls while we played games. But that relationship also went to shit because she was be really immature and spoiled sometimes

Wow. So you really do speak from experience, not just once, but twice. In general now are you the same as me in the way that if a girl shows me certain red flags like BPD or a traumatic past, i dont even bother trying, wbu?

They were both giga clingy, which i actually liked tbh. But the core values just weren't there and that's why the relationships ultimately failed

My current gf is super clingy like my ex was but in a different less fun way. The core difference is just that she doesnt have as many interests, isnt as bubbly and exciting/fun as my ex. The reason its a hard topic for me is because on paper i love my gf, but shes just boring. This is my first time in a 1+ year relationship so idk if this is just natural or if im just naturally a hypergamous foid.

It really is a grass is greener situation. If you break up with her you'll most likely look back on it and regret it.
People have to be realistic. Finding a virgin girl nowadays is already hard, but finding one who's also fun and bubbly is almost impossible

Yeah, people will find it hard to believe but i have alot of options/i am legit attractive and i definitely attribute that to the fact that i have such a hypergamous/grass is greener mindset. Because i know the amount of women that are interested in me (without sounding egotistical). But .org users fail to understand even as a attractive guy its not as simple as finding your dream wife, even rich chads like tom brady get cheated on or have unsatisfying relationships. To me its a numbers/luck game.

Which way, modern man? The boring virgin girl, or will you try your luck with the fun girl who has multiple bodies?

Choose wisely G

Thank you. I just wanna say no homo but i really like the way you articulate your thoughts, you write in a way that is unique on this forum and it makes you assume you are in your 20s. Im a bit autistic i think so i really respect people who know how to articulate and make their points properly and conversations with some actual depth, that is rare.