i'll make her do fun activities with me
Interesting perspective, you never fail to make me thinkMy first gf was giga boring, but she was also a virgin, and it was the purest relationship i've ever had. Outgoing, bubbly girls are a lot of fun to be with but in my experience most of them are hoes. So i'll pick the boring girl
depends if she got ass or tits jfl
You think you are the boss?!? You are solid snake. I am big boss.
no
I used to think having a girl with very similar hobbies, interests, and an overall fun personality was such a big deal. Then i actually dated girls like that and realized it doesn't really matter in the long term. Yeah it's extremely fun to hang out with them but at the end of the day, a relationship isn't built on playing games together or talking for hours about your fav hobbies. It's built on commitment and loyalty, if she's a virgin (giga hard challenge)
What would you say to the argument that you’ll spend most of your time talking to her?
As long as the bitch is hot am good
No never tried to approach a foid
Rape victim but still a virgin?
Depends on what he means by personal compatibility. If he means shared core values and long term goals then yeah i agree. That was actually my original point.
You should stick with her. I had the same problem with my first girlfriend. I remember thinking 'God dayum she's boring as shit
Am i really going to spend the rest of my life with her?' 
I think what he meant was chemistry/communication compatibility, like having entertaining conversations
True
Good points. Its really sad that often girls with good personalities are just the ones who have absorbed it from their previous bfs, ive thought about that before and it made me realise that was likely the case with my ex.
You should stick with her. I had the same problem with my first girlfriend. I remember thinking 'God dayum she's boring as shit
I will genuinely take that advice. Im naturally a fun person and like do exciting things, i just havent had much opportunity because of certain circumstances recently but when i can i will try. Ive always thought alot of relationships end simply because people stop putting in the effort to make it fun/interestingBut looking back now, my time with her was extremely sweet, innocent, and pure. Sure it was also boring at times. My advice is to try doing fun activities with your current girlfriend. If she doesn't want to do one thing, that's fine, just ask if she'd rather do something else. That's what i should've done with my first girlfriend, but i was too inexperienced back then
Wow. So you really do speak from experience, not just once, but twice. In general now are you the same as me in the way that if a girl shows me certain red flags like BPD or a traumatic past, i dont even bother trying, wbu?
My current gf is super clingy like my ex was but in a different less fun way. The core difference is just that she doesnt have as many interests, isnt as bubbly and exciting/fun as my ex. The reason its a hard topic for me is because on paper i love my gf, but shes just boring. This is my first time in a 1+ year relationship so idk if this is just natural or if im just naturally a hypergamous foid.
Yeah, people will find it hard to believe but i have alot of options/i am legit attractive and i definitely attribute that to the fact that i have such a hypergamous/grass is greener mindset. Because i know the amount of women that are interested in me (without sounding egotistical). But .org users fail to understand even as a attractive guy its not as simple as finding your dream wife, even rich chads like tom brady get cheated on or have unsatisfying relationships. To me its a numbers/luck game.
Which way, modern man? The boring virgin girl, or will you try your luck with the fun girl who has multiple bodies?
Choose wisely G
Again, imo, having entertaining conversations is just a bonus, but they aren't what determines the success of a relationship. That comes down to core values, and whether she's a virgin or not. And even if you find someone you can have entertaining conversations and sticks by your side, there will be times when it gets boring anyway. It's impossible to have those late night interesting conversations with someone all the time. You know what i mean?
It probably was sadly. That's why i always get suspicious when they start talking about politics or interests that normally go against their own. For example if a girl makes her whole personality about being some tradcath, you can bet your ass she fucked some trad chad before
Same thing with car girls, Formula 1 girls, etc. Obviously it can sometimes be genuine, and they just naturally developed an interest in those things. Not everything is black and white. But from what i've seen, it usually leans toward 'my ex liked this, so now i do too'It doesn’t need to be anything crazy. Just something you can both do to chill, have a good time, and make some memories. It could even be something as simple as riding a bike around the countryside. I mean shit, even a pottery workshop could be fun who knows?
Yeah, unfortunately i have experience dealing with mentally ill girls. I'm like 80% sure my last ex had it too, she was so similar to my other ex who was actually diagnosed. But yeah, if a girl has BPD it's a wrap
I'm out. I ain't dealing with that shit again brahIt's natural. I also miss my bubbly exes, being with them felt like a movie sometimes. Just try doing those fun things with your current gf first before thinking about ending things. Like genuinely try, not just once or twice
Yup, i don’t have problems getting girls interested in me. The problem is finding a high quality one
Most org users don’t understand this because they’re still in high school and lack experience. Finding the one you’ll spend your life with is a lot of times out of your controlThanks brah
I always try to write clearly and keep my thoughts concise. Plenty of people here have decent ideas, but the way they articulate them is so fucking bad that i don’t even wanna read it
Yeah sameMy first gf was giga boring, but she was also a virgin, and it was the purest relationship i've ever had. Outgoing, bubbly girls are a lot of fun to be with but in my experience most of them are hoes. So i'll pick the boring girl
Yeah atp im seeing it as a benefit if shes bubbly, but if she has all the other traits aligned with my standards then im willing to compromise, because you cant have it all. Its just unfortunate as you can tell from this convo, im someone who deeply enjoys conversations exactly like we are having now. But even with that i wouldnt give it up for the status boost of having a young loyal clingy tall virgin gf. And im forgetting that has its own benefits like you said bubbly girls tend to have had more exes. Not only that but i feel like quiet girls like mine are just alot easier to satisfy in a relationship because all they want is your presence. Idk how to describe it exactly.
Yeah i mean its quite obvious if i tell u she liked cars, ufc, fragrances (partly cos of me) and anime. Over before it beganIt probably was sadly. That's why i always get suspicious when they start talking about politics or interests that normally go against their own. For example if a girl makes her whole personality about being some tradcath, you can bet your ass she fucked some trad chad before
You exactly described my ex to the cmYeah, unfortunately i have experience dealing with mentally ill girls. I'm like 80% sure my last ex had it too, she was so similar to my other ex who was actually diagnosed. But yeah, if a girl has BPD it's a wrap
You might think 'Oh this one is different, maybe she can manage her bpd.' But guess what. She can't. At the beginning it seems like she has it in check, but as time goes by the cracks start forming. Eventually she'll begin splitting and it's over before you know it. They always follow the same pattern, everything seems perfect at first, they're super clingy and love bomb the fuck out of you. But the moment you do something even slightly wrong, she starts splitting, sees you as a horrible person, and forgets everything nice you ever did. Also, they tend to be insanely insecure so there's that
. It was crazy because it was my first time even talking to someone with bpd, and it was kinda underwhelming at first? I was expecting one second angry , one second happy, everyday. I wasnt expecting her to lovebomb the fuck outta me, be clingy for months, reposts only about me, show extreme loyalty and then the mood swing happens months later when she suddenly forgets all of the good things i did for her like helping her get over self harm, and suddenly paint me as a villain to her friends, said me blocking her “activated her trauma”, also her adding tons of guys afterwards. It was honestly crazy seeing the switch up and i think thats what made me get over her fast. I do think tho, dating a girl with bpd is the greatest learning experience you can have, its like dating a woman X1000. Also i couldve been more aware when she was painting her ex as a villain, that was probably the splitting phenomenon you are talking about, where she made him sound completely like a supervillain, but at the time my brain didnt register “why was she dating him then” and instead saw her as a victim.
. I assume you learnt about this stuff after your relationships with your bpd girls? Because i went through a similar analytical phase.I will try for sure. And its a good idea because my gf constantly wants to do things tg anyways like go to the city or beach.
Yeah exactly, i think the word i was actually trying to describe when i was complimenting you was nuance’. I think most .org users lack that ability to hold two opposing beliefs and just see things in black and white, one thing is right, one thing is wrong. You always demonstrate nuance and thats why its refreshing for someone like me, sadly tho no one gives af on .org, it rewards retardation, ragebait and confirmation biasYup, i don’t have problems getting girls interested in me. The problem is finding a high quality one
What makes you say it was your fault? So was she a actual good girl without bpd? Do you regret losing her? And same both girls made love letters for me, the difference is, my gf is consistently affectionate over a long period of time, my ex mustve just been because of the highs of a new relationship. Thats why its refreshing see extremes as red flags now like removing all guys from your insta as soon as you meet me (which is what my ex did)
Whats weird about it is you really have no control. She came back 4 months later and i ignored her, but its interesting she only came back after i completely removed my attention. The sad thing abt bpd girls which makes me curious is just will they ever be in a happy relationship? Like where will they end up in 10-20 years when its time for them to settle in a ltr, it actually makes me feel empathetic for them because it sounds like they are their own worst enemy.
I struggle with that
Were both uncs. Its funny how i could immediately tell u were older. I wonder if the younger generation are just young, or genuinly retarded/brain rottedAnd yeah, i'm in my 20s. So i guess i'm basically an unc compared to all the 14 year olds on the forum
