Would you date a girl with no personality?

[Big Boss]

Lets say your girlfriend was physically attractive and loyal and virgin, but she had the personality of a brick wall and you find talking to her extremely boring. Would you still want the LTR? Or marriage? Or is it a non negotiable to you that she must be interesting/fun to talk to

 

[Big Boss]

Over for brick brah

 

[buddymaxxing]

"would you spend time with a person you don't enjoy spending time with" nigga we can't fuck for 16h a day, dumbass question

 

[Big Boss]

"would you spend time with a person you don't enjoy spending time with" nigga we can't fuck for 16h a day, dumbass question

Why

 

[Big Boss]

@sphenoidnr @TheGreatDetective why yes?

 

[TheGreatDetective]

My first gf was giga boring, but she was also a virgin, and it was the purest relationship i've ever had. Outgoing, bubbly girls are a lot of fun to be with but in my experience most of them are hoes. So i'll pick the boring girl i'll make her do fun activities with me

 

[Drib]

Just cheat on her with a girl that has a good personality and when u get horny go back to her

 

[Big Boss]

My first gf was giga boring, but she was also a virgin, and it was the purest relationship i've ever had. Outgoing, bubbly girls are a lot of fun to be with but in my experience most of them are hoes. So i'll pick the boring girl i'll make her do fun activities with me

Interesting perspective, you never fail to make me think

 

[iblamemycuriuosity]

Acting like i got a choice i have been a virgin for 18 years

 

[808AmnesiaLuver]

Lets say your girlfriend was physically attractive and loyal and virgin, but she had the personality of a brick wall and you find talking to her extremely boring. Would you still want the LTR? Or marriage? Or is it a non negotiable to you that she must be interesting/fun to talk to

depends if she got ass or tits jfl

 

[u3h]

Lets say your girlfriend was physically attractive and loyal and virgin, but she had the personality of a brick wall and you find talking to her extremely boring. Would you still want the LTR? Or marriage? Or is it a non negotiable to you that she must be interesting/fun to talk to

no

 

[Big Boss]

Acting like i got a choice i have been a virgin for 18 years

You think you are the boss?!? You are solid snake. I am big boss.

Have u kissed or held hands with a woman?

 

[vigor]

Lets say your girlfriend was physically attractive and loyal and virgin, but she had the personality of a brick wall and you find talking to her extremely boring. Would you still want the LTR? Or marriage? Or is it a non negotiable to you that she must be interesting/fun to talk to

no
your wife is probably going to be the person you spend the most time with for the next 50 years of your life
there is no love without personal compatibility
anything else is just a bangmaid

 

[TheGreatDetective]

Interesting perspective, you never fail to make me think

I used to think having a girl with very similar hobbies, interests, and an overall fun personality was such a big deal. Then i actually dated girls like that and realized it doesn't really matter in the long term. Yeah it's extremely fun to hang out with them but at the end of the day, a relationship isn't built on playing games together or talking for hours about your fav hobbies. It's built on commitment and loyalty, if she's a virgin (giga hard challenge)

It reminds me of that Sam Hyde quote ''If you need your woman to like, align with you completely. Cause you know who's gonna. You know who's gonna align with you completely? A man. A man with aspergers''

 

[DrRodger]

No, id want to talk to her casually and stuff

 

[Big Boss]

I used to think having a girl with very similar hobbies, interests, and an overall fun personality was such a big deal. Then i actually dated girls like that and realized it doesn't really matter in the long term. Yeah it's extremely fun to hang out with them but at the end of the day, a relationship isn't built on playing games together or talking for hours about your fav hobbies. It's built on commitment and loyalty, if she's a virgin (giga hard challenge)

What would you say to the argument that you’ll spend most of your time talking to her?

Im currently struggling with this dilemma cos my girlfriend on paper is perfect, 5’11 mtb-htb, virgin, loyal yet i just find talking to her super boring.

Meanwhile my ex, and this is gonn make your point sound even more true, my ex and me had insane compatibility in terms of communication and humour and energy etc, but she was also a rape victim, bpd, hypergamous, still a virgin but just felt less trustworthy long term. As in it mightve worked long term but it was uncertain, my current gf is almost certain she wants to get married to me asap. Its weird because they are the same looks level but something as simple as a good personality makes me miss my ex often, idk if its the grass is greener paradox or just im incompatible with my current gf/bored. Maybe im the hypergamous foid

 

[sphenoidnr]

@sphenoidnr @TheGreatDetective why yes?

As long as the bitch is hot am good

 

[iblamemycuriuosity]

You think you are the boss?!? You are solid snake. I am big boss.

Have u kissed or held hands with a woman?

No never tried to approach a foid

 

[leorknight27]

After like 3 days with one of these girls it gets unbearable hell no

 

[leorknight27]

rape victim, bpd, hypergamous, still a virgin

Rape victim but still a virgin?

 

[TheGreatDetective]

What would you say to this argument below?

Depends on what he means by personal compatibility. If he means shared core values and long term goals then yeah i agree. That was actually my original point.
A lot of people conflate that with having a girl who shares your hobbies and interests and is fun to talk to. But from what i've seen, most high quality girls are boring as shit. They're almost a blank slate because they haven't absorbed the personalities of previous boyfriends. Again, not always, but most of the times from what i've seen

Im currently struggling with this dilemma cos my girlfriend on paper is perfect, 5’11 mtb-htb, virgin, loyal yet i just find talking to her super boring.

Meanwhile my ex, and this is gonn make your point sound even more true, my ex and me had insane compatibility in terms of communication and humour and energy etc, but she was also a rape victim, bpd, hypergamous, still a virgin but just felt less trustworthy long term. As in it mightve worked long term but it was uncertain, my current gf is almost certain she wants to get married to me asap. Its weird because they are the same looks level but something as simple as a good personality makes me miss my ex often, idk if its the grass is greener paradox or just im incompatible with my current gf/bored. Maybe im the hypergamous foid

You should stick with her. I had the same problem with my first girlfriend. I remember thinking 'God dayum she's boring as shit Am i really going to spend the rest of my life with her?'

But looking back now, my time with her was extremely sweet, innocent, and pure. Sure it was also boring at times. My advice is to try doing fun activities with your current girlfriend. If she doesn't want to do one thing, that's fine, just ask if she'd rather do something else. That's what i should've done with my first girlfriend, but i was too inexperienced back then

Both of my last two exes were basically carbon copies of me but guess what. Those relationships still went to shit.
One of them was a neet gamer girl who was diagnosed with BPD (among other stuff) just like your ex. Eventually she started splitting, and the relationship fell apart.
My last ex, who i strongly suspect also had bpd even though she was never diagnosed, was a super bubbly cashier who also loved rotting with me on long calls while we played games. But that relationship also went to shit because she was be really immature and spoiled sometimes

They were both giga clingy, which i actually liked tbh. But the core values just weren't there and that's why the relationships ultimately failed

It really is a grass is greener situation. If you break up with her you'll most likely look back on it and regret it.
People have to be realistic. Finding a virgin girl nowadays is already hard, but finding one who's also fun and bubbly is almost impossible

Which way, modern man? The boring virgin girl, or will you try your luck with the fun girl who has multiple bodies?

Choose wisely G

In case someone doesn't know what splitting is

BPD Splitting Can Harm Relationships

Splitting is a symptom of borderline personality disorder where a person is unable to hold opposing thoughts and sees everything as black or white.

www.verywellmind.com

 

[Big Boss]

Depends on what he means by personal compatibility. If he means shared core values and long term goals then yeah i agree. That was actually my original point.

I think what he meant was chemistry/communication compatibility, like having entertaining conversations

A lot of people conflate that with having a girl who shares your hobbies and interests and is fun to talk to. But from what i've seen, most high quality girls are boring as shit.

True

They're almost a blank slate because they haven't absorbed the personalities of previous boyfriends. Again, not always, but most of the times from what i've seen

Good points. Its really sad that often girls with good personalities are just the ones who have absorbed it from their previous bfs, ive thought about that before and it made me realise that was likely the case with my ex.

You should stick with her. I had the same problem with my first girlfriend. I remember thinking 'God dayum she's boring as shit Am i really going to spend the rest of my life with her?'

But looking back now, my time with her was extremely sweet, innocent, and pure. Sure it was also boring at times. My advice is to try doing fun activities with your current girlfriend. If she doesn't want to do one thing, that's fine, just ask if she'd rather do something else. That's what i should've done with my first girlfriend, but i was too inexperienced back then

I will genuinely take that advice. Im naturally a fun person and like do exciting things, i just havent had much opportunity because of certain circumstances recently but when i can i will try. Ive always thought alot of relationships end simply because people stop putting in the effort to make it fun/interesting

Both of my last two exes were basically carbon copies of me but guess what. Those relationships still went to shit.
One of them was a neet gamer girl who was diagnosed with BPD (among other stuff) just like your ex. Eventually she started splitting, and the relationship fell apart.
My last ex, who i strongly suspect also had bpd even though she was never diagnosed, was a super bubbly cashier who also loved rotting with me on long calls while we played games. But that relationship also went to shit because she was be really immature and spoiled sometimes

Wow. So you really do speak from experience, not just once, but twice. In general now are you the same as me in the way that if a girl shows me certain red flags like BPD or a traumatic past, i dont even bother trying, wbu?

They were both giga clingy, which i actually liked tbh. But the core values just weren't there and that's why the relationships ultimately failed

My current gf is super clingy like my ex was but in a different less fun way. The core difference is just that she doesnt have as many interests, isnt as bubbly and exciting/fun as my ex. The reason its a hard topic for me is because on paper i love my gf, but shes just boring. This is my first time in a 1+ year relationship so idk if this is just natural or if im just naturally a hypergamous foid.

It really is a grass is greener situation. If you break up with her you'll most likely look back on it and regret it.
People have to be realistic. Finding a virgin girl nowadays is already hard, but finding one who's also fun and bubbly is almost impossible

Yeah, people will find it hard to believe but i have alot of options/i am legit attractive and i definitely attribute that to the fact that i have such a hypergamous/grass is greener mindset. Because i know the amount of women that are interested in me (without sounding egotistical). But .org users fail to understand even as a attractive guy its not as simple as finding your dream wife, even rich chads like tom brady get cheated on or have unsatisfying relationships. To me its a numbers/luck game.

Which way, modern man? The boring virgin girl, or will you try your luck with the fun girl who has multiple bodies?

Choose wisely G

Thank you. I just wanna say no homo but i really like the way you articulate your thoughts, you write in a way that is unique on this forum and it makes you assume you are in your 20s. Im a bit autistic i think so i really respect people who know how to articulate and make their points properly and conversations with some actual depth, that is rare.

 

[TheGreatDetective]

I think what he meant was chemistry/communication compatibility, like having entertaining conversations

Again, imo, having entertaining conversations is just a bonus, but they aren't what determines the success of a relationship. That comes down to core values, and whether she's a virgin or not. And even if you find someone you can have entertaining conversations and sticks by your side, there will be times when it gets boring anyway. It's impossible to have those late night interesting conversations with someone all the time. You know what i mean?

Good points. Its really sad that often girls with good personalities are just the ones who have absorbed it from their previous bfs, ive thought about that before and it made me realise that was likely the case with my ex.

It probably was sadly. That's why i always get suspicious when they start talking about politics or interests that normally go against their own. For example if a girl makes her whole personality about being some tradcath, you can bet your ass she fucked some trad chad before Same thing with car girls, Formula 1 girls, etc. Obviously it can sometimes be genuine, and they just naturally developed an interest in those things. Not everything is black and white. But from what i've seen, it usually leans toward 'my ex liked this, so now i do too'

I will genuinely take that advice. Im naturally a fun person and like do exciting things, i just havent had much opportunity because of certain circumstances recently but when i can i will try. Ive always thought alot of relationships end simply because people stop putting in the effort to make it fun/interesting

It doesn’t need to be anything crazy. Just something you can both do to chill, have a good time, and make some memories. It could even be something as simple as riding a bike around the countryside. I mean shit, even a pottery workshop could be fun who knows?

Wow. So you really do speak from experience, not just once, but twice. In general now are you the same as me in the way that if a girl shows me certain red flags like BPD or a traumatic past, i dont even bother trying, wbu?

Yeah, unfortunately i have experience dealing with mentally ill girls. I'm like 80% sure my last ex had it too, she was so similar to my other ex who was actually diagnosed. But yeah, if a girl has BPD it's a wrap I'm out. I ain't dealing with that shit again brah

You might think 'Oh this one is different, maybe she can manage her bpd.' But guess what. She can't. At the beginning it seems like she has it in check, but as time goes by the cracks start forming. Eventually she'll begin splitting and it's over before you know it. They always follow the same pattern, everything seems perfect at first, they're super clingy and love bomb the fuck out of you. But the moment you do something even slightly wrong, she starts splitting, sees you as a horrible person, and forgets everything nice you ever did. Also, they tend to be insanely insecure so there's that

My current gf is super clingy like my ex was but in a different less fun way. The core difference is just that she doesnt have as many interests, isnt as bubbly and exciting/fun as my ex. The reason its a hard topic for me is because on paper i love my gf, but shes just boring. This is my first time in a 1+ year relationship so idk if this is just natural or if im just naturally a hypergamous foid.

It's natural. I also miss my bubbly exes, being with them felt like a movie sometimes. Just try doing those fun things with your current gf first before thinking about ending things. Like genuinely try, not just once or twice

Yeah, people will find it hard to believe but i have alot of options/i am legit attractive and i definitely attribute that to the fact that i have such a hypergamous/grass is greener mindset. Because i know the amount of women that are interested in me (without sounding egotistical). But .org users fail to understand even as a attractive guy its not as simple as finding your dream wife, even rich chads like tom brady get cheated on or have unsatisfying relationships. To me its a numbers/luck game.

Yup, i don’t have problems getting girls interested in me. The problem is finding a high quality one Most org users don’t understand this because they’re still in high school and lack experience. Finding the one you’ll spend your life with is a lot of times out of your control

Yes, obviously if you’re good looking it makes things way easier since girls will actually give you the time of day to get to know you. But that doesn’t mean you’ll find her. Like you said, it’s a numbers/luck game.
I’ve literally had chad treatment in all of my relationships. My first gf would literally start pouting if i didn’t let her pay for both of us, she would insist on paying and would write me love letters and shit. But it still failed. Although unlike the others, that one was actually my fault, i was too inexperienced

You can and will get dumped even if you’re chad. At one point it stops being your fault. It’s not because you aren’t good looking enough or because of something you said or did. It’s simply because a lot of women have had their brains fried from a very young age and are spoiled as shit

Thank you. I just wanna say no homo but i really like the way you articulate your thoughts, you write in a way that is unique on this forum and it makes you assume you are in your 20s. Im a bit autistic i think so i really respect people who know how to articulate and make their points properly and conversations with some actual depth, that is rare.

Thanks brah I always try to write clearly and keep my thoughts concise. Plenty of people here have decent ideas, but the way they articulate them is so fucking bad that i don’t even wanna read it

Niggas don’t use paragraphs, don’t check grammar, and then expect you to sit through their schizo ramblings

And yeah, i'm in my 20s. So i guess i'm basically an unc compared to all the 14 year olds on the forum

 

[droidmaxxing]

My first gf was giga boring, but she was also a virgin, and it was the purest relationship i've ever had. Outgoing, bubbly girls are a lot of fun to be with but in my experience most of them are hoes. So i'll pick the boring girl i'll make her do fun activities with me

Yeah same
If she's boring i don't have a problem,I can just make her do fun stuff with me, rather than trying to make her more funny or try changing her into some funny girl

 

[Big Boss]

Again, imo, having entertaining conversations is just a bonus, but they aren't what determines the success of a relationship. That comes down to core values, and whether she's a virgin or not. And even if you find someone you can have entertaining conversations and sticks by your side, there will be times when it gets boring anyway. It's impossible to have those late night interesting conversations with someone all the time. You know what i mean?

Yeah atp im seeing it as a benefit if shes bubbly, but if she has all the other traits aligned with my standards then im willing to compromise, because you cant have it all. Its just unfortunate as you can tell from this convo, im someone who deeply enjoys conversations exactly like we are having now. But even with that i wouldnt give it up for the status boost of having a young loyal clingy tall virgin gf. And im forgetting that has its own benefits like you said bubbly girls tend to have had more exes. Not only that but i feel like quiet girls like mine are just alot easier to satisfy in a relationship because all they want is your presence. Idk how to describe it exactly.

It probably was sadly. That's why i always get suspicious when they start talking about politics or interests that normally go against their own. For example if a girl makes her whole personality about being some tradcath, you can bet your ass she fucked some trad chad before Same thing with car girls, Formula 1 girls, etc. Obviously it can sometimes be genuine, and they just naturally developed an interest in those things. Not everything is black and white. But from what i've seen, it usually leans toward 'my ex liked this, so now i do too'

Yeah i mean its quite obvious if i tell u she liked cars, ufc, fragrances (partly cos of me) and anime. Over before it began

Yeah, unfortunately i have experience dealing with mentally ill girls. I'm like 80% sure my last ex had it too, she was so similar to my other ex who was actually diagnosed. But yeah, if a girl has BPD it's a wrap I'm out. I ain't dealing with that shit again brah

You might think 'Oh this one is different, maybe she can manage her bpd.' But guess what. She can't. At the beginning it seems like she has it in check, but as time goes by the cracks start forming. Eventually she'll begin splitting and it's over before you know it. They always follow the same pattern, everything seems perfect at first, they're super clingy and love bomb the fuck out of you. But the moment you do something even slightly wrong, she starts splitting, sees you as a horrible person, and forgets everything nice you ever did. Also, they tend to be insanely insecure so there's that

You exactly described my ex to the cm . It was crazy because it was my first time even talking to someone with bpd, and it was kinda underwhelming at first? I was expecting one second angry , one second happy, everyday. I wasnt expecting her to lovebomb the fuck outta me, be clingy for months, reposts only about me, show extreme loyalty and then the mood swing happens months later when she suddenly forgets all of the good things i did for her like helping her get over self harm, and suddenly paint me as a villain to her friends, said me blocking her “activated her trauma”, also her adding tons of guys afterwards. It was honestly crazy seeing the switch up and i think thats what made me get over her fast. I do think tho, dating a girl with bpd is the greatest learning experience you can have, its like dating a woman X1000. Also i couldve been more aware when she was painting her ex as a villain, that was probably the splitting phenomenon you are talking about, where she made him sound completely like a supervillain, but at the time my brain didnt register “why was she dating him then” and instead saw her as a victim.

I wasnt aware of splitting before, i wish i knew about it back then . I assume you learnt about this stuff after your relationships with your bpd girls? Because i went through a similar analytical phase.

It's natural. I also miss my bubbly exes, being with them felt like a movie sometimes. Just try doing those fun things with your current gf first before thinking about ending things. Like genuinely try, not just once or twice

I will try for sure. And its a good idea because my gf constantly wants to do things tg anyways like go to the city or beach.

Yup, i don’t have problems getting girls interested in me. The problem is finding a high quality one Most org users don’t understand this because they’re still in high school and lack experience. Finding the one you’ll spend your life with is a lot of times out of your control

Yeah exactly, i think the word i was actually trying to describe when i was complimenting you was nuance’. I think most .org users lack that ability to hold two opposing beliefs and just see things in black and white, one thing is right, one thing is wrong. You always demonstrate nuance and thats why its refreshing for someone like me, sadly tho no one gives af on .org, it rewards retardation, ragebait and confirmation bias

Yes, obviously if you’re good looking it makes things way easier since girls will actually give you the time of day to get to know you. But that doesn’t mean you’ll find her. Like you said, it’s a numbers/luck game.
I’ve literally had chad treatment in all of my relationships. My first gf would literally start pouting if i didn’t let her pay for both of us, she would insist on paying and would write me love letters and shit. But it still failed. Although unlike the others, that one was actually my fault, i was too inexperienced

What makes you say it was your fault? So was she a actual good girl without bpd? Do you regret losing her? And same both girls made love letters for me, the difference is, my gf is consistently affectionate over a long period of time, my ex mustve just been because of the highs of a new relationship. Thats why its refreshing see extremes as red flags now like removing all guys from your insta as soon as you meet me (which is what my ex did)

You can and will get dumped even if you’re chad. At one point it stops being your fault. It’s not because you aren’t good looking enough or because of something you said or did. It’s simply because a lot of women have had their brains fried from a very young age and are spoiled as shit

Whats weird about it is you really have no control. She came back 4 months later and i ignored her, but its interesting she only came back after i completely removed my attention. The sad thing abt bpd girls which makes me curious is just will they ever be in a happy relationship? Like where will they end up in 10-20 years when its time for them to settle in a ltr, it actually makes me feel empathetic for them because it sounds like they are their own worst enemy.

keep my thoughts concise.

I struggle with that

And yeah, i'm in my 20s. So i guess i'm basically an unc compared to all the 14 year olds on the forum

Were both uncs. Its funny how i could immediately tell u were older. I wonder if the younger generation are just young, or genuinly retarded/brain rotted

 

[TheGreatDetective]

And im forgetting that has its own benefits like you said bubbly girls tend to have had more exes. Not only that but i feel like quiet girls like mine are just alot easier to satisfy in a relationship because all they want is your presence. Idk how to describe it exactly.

The problem with outgoing, bubbly girls is that sometimes they can be a bit too extroverted and so high energy that it drains you. They're always wanting to do something or needing to go somewhere instead of just chilling with you. My last gf was like that, and it was a bit tiresome sometimes. Like bitch why can't we just sit and chill instead of walking around the city all afternoon

Yeah i mean its quite obvious if i tell u she liked cars, ufc, fragrances (partly cos of me) and anime. Over before it began

I wonder what traits my exes picked up from me Oh well, they're someone else's problem now regardless

You exactly described my ex to the cm . It was crazy because it was my first time even talking to someone with bpd, and it was kinda underwhelming at first? I was expecting one second angry , one second happy, everyday. I wasnt expecting her to lovebomb the fuck outta me, be clingy for months, reposts only about me, show extreme loyalty and then the mood swing happens months later when she suddenly forgets all of the good things i did for her like helping her get over self harm, and suddenly paint me as a villain to her friends, said me blocking her “activated her trauma”, also her adding tons of guys afterwards. It was honestly crazy seeing the switch up and i think thats what made me get over her fast. I do think tho, dating a girl with bpd is the greatest learning experience you can have, its like dating a woman X1000. Also i couldve been more aware when she was painting her ex as a villain, that was probably the splitting phenomenon you are talking about, where she made him sound completely like a supervillain, but at the time my brain didnt register “why was she dating him then” and instead saw her as a victim.

Everyone who has dated girls with BPD has a very similar story to tell. Because that’s just how their brains work. The pattern the relationship follows is almost always the same, sooner or later, the shitstorm arrives
It’s definitely an experience, but it can be so overwhelming that it fucks you up. For me it did at first since i had never dealt with someone like that. I tried to wrap my head around what was happening and kept wondering if i was doing something wrong. Eventually i realized i wasn’t the problem, i was just dealing with someone with bpd

I also used to think girls with bpd would have extreme daily mood swings, which some do tbh, but it wasn’t like that for me. Instead it was a slow building shitstorm that brewed for months. I wouldn’t recommend trying to make sense of what they say or do during an episode because most of the time it’s completely illogical. If you’re the type who thinks 'No, i need to figure out what’s wrong and fix it, maybe it’s my fault?' you’re just gonna drive yourself insane dealing with these people

I wasnt aware of splitting before, i wish i knew about it back then . I assume you learnt about this stuff after your relationships with your bpd girls? Because i went through a similar analytical phase.

I actually learned about it because my ex told me She educated me on that stuff, and i obviously researched more about it online too. But i eventually came to the conclusion that it’s simply better to stay away from these people, at least relationship wise

I will try for sure. And its a good idea because my gf constantly wants to do things tg anyways like go to the city or beach.

If she likes the beach then maybe stand up paddleboarding could be fun

Yeah exactly, i think the word i was actually trying to describe when i was complimenting you was nuance’. I think most .org users lack that ability to hold two opposing beliefs and just see things in black and white, one thing is right, one thing is wrong. You always demonstrate nuance and thats why its refreshing for someone like me, sadly tho no one gives af on .org, it rewards retardation, ragebait and confirmation bias

Lack of nuance is a classic telltale sign of low IQ. I try to see things from both sides as best as i can. I'm not afraid to change my position on something or admit when I'm wrong.
But a lot of people here just want to win arguments, they don't really care about learning anything. They don't listen to what you have to say, they just wait for you to stop talking so they can continue rambling about their bs.
I mean i racebait and shitpost like some of these guys, but i also make serious comments all the time. I like mixing it up a bit. I guess the difference between me and those guys is that i know when to be serious, and i don't hide behind 5 layers of irony

What makes you say it was your fault? So was she a actual good girl without bpd? Do you regret losing her? And same both girls made love letters for me, the difference is, my gf is consistently affectionate over a long period of time, my ex mustve just been because of the highs of a new relationship. Thats why its refreshing see extremes as red flags now like removing all guys from your insta as soon as you meet me (which is what my ex did)

Yeah my first girlfriend was a very sweet, normal girl. She wasn't mentally ill. I regret losing her a lot. I didn't reciprocate a lot of what she gave me, nor was i there for her during difficult times. I goofed around too much and didn't take the relationship seriously

But i was too young to know any better, we both were actually. We dated from 15 to 19, so about 4 years. So yeah, that one was 100% my fault. I think a piece of me died back then. It took me a long time to recover from that breakup.
Meanwhile my last ex and i broke up a little over a month ago, and i already don't give a fuck. I'm going on new dates already Things get easier with time. And now i also have experience, so i know how to deal with these things

Whats weird about it is you really have no control. She came back 4 months later and i ignored her, but its interesting she only came back after i completely removed my attention. The sad thing abt bpd girls which makes me curious is just will they ever be in a happy relationship? Like where will they end up in 10-20 years when its time for them to settle in a ltr, it actually makes me feel empathetic for them because it sounds like they are their own worst enemy.

Yeah, things aren’t really in our control. I don’t think they’ll ever be in a happy long term relationship. It always falls apart eventually. It’s sad indeed.

Tbh i wanna make a thread one day about how even girls who don’t have BPD share a lot of the same core pathological traits as the ones who do. But that’s a topic for another day. I’m too tired to write it

I struggle with that

I struggled a lot with it too. But the more you write and practice keeping things concise the easier it gets

Were both uncs. Its funny how i could immediately tell u were older. I wonder if the younger generation are just young, or genuinly retarded/brain rotted

You can usually tell when someone is older, either by the way they type or by their ideas

I think it's a mix of both. I don't remember being that retarded when i was 14/15/16. But maybe we've just forgotten what we were like back then

Every older generation says the same thing about younger people. Our parents said it about us, and now we say it about the younger kids

Reminds me of this scene