I opened up to my fiancée and family about incel spaces and now want a way out.

[Xangsane]

I was visibly in tears as I opened up and how these sites and thinking back to my history with school and uni mates, and how I was severely bullied, prior to meeting my fiancée destroyed my mental health. I am so shocked at how my fiancée supported me throughout this but my parents think something was wrong with me for being on here for so long it's completely messed up the way I process the world. They think I'm probably a mentalcel.

Because I cried so much I felt I almost had a heart attack.

Now I will be married, how do I slowly forget about the blackpill and incel sites/incel-adjacent sites like this one?

 

[Xangsane]

0

 

[lilxder2]

first yo delete yo account then you just start being happy tbh like go outside in the sun and smile

 

[lilxder2]

also stop being autistic and overthinking everything just accept that some things ARE

 

[Graham]

Now I will be married, how do I slowly forget about the blackpill and incel sites/incel-adjacent sites like this one?

You can't.

 

[Deleted member 30679]

Delete your account

 

[zap]

Close your eyes and imagine your body as a rotting corpse

 

[Sprinkles]

don’t leave,

you’re one of the most memorable users here.

 

[Xangsane]

first yo delete yo account then you just start being happy tbh like go outside in the sun and smile

Do you think it would be easy?

I cried and opened up that I thought I'd never be truly if I never found my fiancée thanks to an acquaintance/friend. I thought I would be forever alone with a broken heart as I was cheated on and played with by another woman when I was 23.

 

[lilxder2]

don’t leave,

you’re one of the most memorable users here.

you are keeping him trapped here for your own pleasure man thats slavery p much
let him be a free bird like a bird thats learned to fly for the first time at 25 type shit

 

[Xangsane]

also stop being autistic and overthinking everything just accept that some things ARE

I always used to think of myself as behind everyone else. I lost my virginity at 23 to a girl that played with my feelings and before my fiancée, was so romantically and sexually inexperienced. I mean I look young for my age compared to others and im far from nt. My parents think something is wrong with me.

 

[yeeyeeslayer]

I was visibly in tears as I opened up and how these sites and thinking back to my history with school and uni mates, and how I was severely bullied, prior to meeting my fiancée destroyed my mental health. I am so shocked at how my fiancée supported me throughout this but my parents think something was wrong with me for being on here for so long it's completely messed up the way I process the world. They think I'm probably a mentalcel.

Now I will be married, how do I slowly forget about the blackpill and incel sites/incel-adjacent sites like this one?

Lmao the blackpill is a rabbithole you can never escape people have tried leaving but they always come back

 

[Xangsane]

you are keeping him trapped here for your own pleasure man thats slavery p much
let him be a free bird like a bird thats learned to fly for the first time at 25 type shit

I cried so hard I almost had a heart attack pouring out my feelings that I pent up for many years

 

[Xangsane]

Lmao the blackpill is a rabbithole you can never escape people have tried leaving but they always come back

I cried so hard I almost had a heart attack pouring out my feelings that I pent up for many years

 

[lilxder2]

I cried so hard I almost had a heart attack pouring out my feelings that I pent up for many years

so happy for you bhai you found someone who loves you, just let this go now tbh

 

[Xangsane]

You can't.

Why not?

Delete your account

It's not that easy.

 

[Deleted member 21661]

I was visibly in tears as I opened up and how these sites and thinking back to my history with school and uni mates, and how I was severely bullied, prior to meeting my fiancée destroyed my mental health. I am so shocked at how my fiancée supported me throughout this but my parents think something was wrong with me for being on here for so long it's completely messed up the way I process the world. They think I'm probably a mentalcel.

Now I will be married, how do I slowly forget about the blackpill and incel sites/incel-adjacent sites like this one?

I'll miss you.

 

[Xangsane]

so happy for you bhai you found someone who loves you

Thank you but my parents pointed out my faults and the fact they think in addition to my autism, I'm probably mentally ill.

I cried so hard today

 

[Xangsane]

I'll miss you.

Thank you so much

 

[Xangsane]

don’t leave,

you’re one of the most memorable users here.

Thank you so much

 

[lilxder2]

autism, I'm probably mentally ill

well yeah

 

[Xangsane]

Lmao the blackpill is a rabbithole you can never escape people have tried leaving but they always come back

What do you mean?

 

[Xangsane]

well yeah

Do you think so?

 

[yeeyeeslayer]

What do you mean?

You’ll never forget about the blackpill

 

[Deleted member 21345]

Insane. Just earlier today I came out to my mom as an incel forum poster but she was pretty indifferent. She literally just said "Allah knows best" and we went back to normal.

My bf knows and knows my account and says he always knew I was a weirdo

One time he jokingly said "I want you off that site, it's affecting you" after a small argument and my heart sank but he was kidding

 

[lilxder2]

Do you think so?

autism is a mental illness, isnt it?

 

[Xangsane]

You’ll never forget about the blackpill

I mean to forget about these spaces.

 

[Xangsane]

autism is a mental illness, isnt it?

No.

 

[yeeyeeslayer]

I mean to forget about these spaces.

Why do you want to

 

[lilxder2]

No.

lifefuel

 

[Xangsane]

Why do you want to

It's severely affecting my mental health and my thought processes.

 

[yeeyeeslayer]

I mean to forget about these spaces.

The key in the life is balance there’s people in committed relationships who have fiancés who are still active here like @buflek just because this site is fun just make sure to have moderation and not rot 24/7

 

[Deleted member 21661]

Thank you so much

Have a nice life.

 

[NoReedemingFeature]

You're here forever

 

[Xangsane]

Insane. Just earlier today I came out to my mom as an incel forum poster but she was pretty indifferent. She literally just said "Allah knows best" and we went back to normal.

My bf knows and knows my account and says he always knew I was a weirdo

One time he jokingly said "I want you off that site, it's affecting you" after a small argument and my heart sank but he was kidding

My mother was telling me I probably might have another underlying issue other than autism and asked why I was so fixated on looks even though "I'm one of the best looking young men she knows" (not sure if cope) and asking me "why should ugly men bully a pretty one and tell him what he must do with his life".

They were even learning all the slang but it hit hard and told me that I needed to drop it otherwise I should be evaluated.

 

[Xangsane]

You're here forever

Really?

Have a nice life.

Thank you

 

[Eternal_]

106,000 posts..wow

 

[Xangsane]

The key in the life is balance there’s people in committed relationships who have fiancés who are still active here like @buflek just because this site is fun just make sure to have moderation and not rot 24/7

My parents were telling me that I shouldn't let "ugly keyboard warriors" tell me what I should do.

 

[Xangsane]

106,000 posts..wow

I know.

 

[Graham]

Why not?

You can't just forget everything you've learned, not instantly at least, but it's what made you who you are. Getting rid of that would be like getting rid of part of who you are.

Your life could go in many ways. Maybe things don't work out, and you'll be back on here ranting about hypergamy, or you will have a loving wife, multiple children, and look back and laugh about how you spent so much time here.

I'd imagine the best thing would be to find validation / talk to people you find interesting that aren't on these sites, so eventually you will loose touch with blackpill and incel culture over time.

Anyway, I wish you the best.

 

[yeeyeeslayer]

My mother was telling me I probably might have another underlying issue other than autism and asked why I was so fixated on looks even though "I'm one of the best looking young men she knows" (not sure if cope) and asking me "why should ugly men bully a pretty one and tell him what he must do with his life".

They were even learning all the slang but it hit hard and told me that I needed to drop it otherwise I should be evaluated.

Wait are you British?

 

[FailedNormieManlet]

I was visibly in tears as I opened up and how these sites and thinking back to my history with school and uni mates, and how I was severely bullied, prior to meeting my fiancée destroyed my mental health. I am so shocked at how my fiancée supported me throughout this but my parents think something was wrong with me for being on here for so long it's completely messed up the way I process the world. They think I'm probably a mentalcel.

Now I will be married, how do I slowly forget about the blackpill and incel sites/incel-adjacent sites like this one?

When are you getting married

 

[Deleted member 21661]

Really?

Thank you

Will you remember me when you leave?

 

[Xangsane]

Wait are you British?

Yes

 

[Xangsane]

Will you remember me when you leave?

I will

When are you getting married

This upcoming January

 

[Deleted member 21345]

My mother was telling me I probably might have another underlying issue other than autism and asked why I was so fixated on looks even though "I'm one of the best looking young men she knows" (not sure if cope) and asking me "why should ugly men bully a pretty one and tell him what he must do with his life".

They were even learning all the slang but it hit hard and told me that I needed to drop it otherwise I should be evaluated.

I don't really know if it's possible to "get over" the blackpill once you've past a certain event horizon

I've had times where I fret more or less over my looks, and I tried to leave Manu times but I just don't know if you can really just forget it. I've accepted its part of me and am at peace with it

Maybe if you could show them that somehow they'd understand. It's part of who you are

 

[Xangsane]

You can't just forget everything you've learned, not instantly at least, but it's what made you who you are. Getting rid of that would be like getting rid of part of who you are.

Your life could go in many ways. Maybe things don't work out, and you'll be back on here ranting about hypergamy, or you will have a loving wife, multiple children, and look back and laugh about how you spent so much time here.

I'd imagine the best thing would be to find validation / talk to people you find interesting that aren't on these sites, so eventually you will loose touch with blackpill and incel culture over time.

Anyway, I wish you the best.

My parents told me they fear it may not work out and she'd think I'm a weirdo, especially if my looks start to fade.

Which is why they're on my back on me to keep fit and to look good as much as possible.

 

[FailedNormieManlet]

I will

This upcoming January

Pm me your socials

 

[kebab]

Why?

 

[Deleted member 32285]

Is your fiance a @thecel