Why do men without a girlfriend who are lonely don’t go talk to girls ?

[A23ghskung]

<div class="bbWrapper">As in, they sometimes they go to school where there are literally thousands of women at any given time of the day. But dudes still won’t try to talk to not one of them and after that they say they’re lonely, or when they see a cute girl while in city or a public space.<br /> <br /> Do dudes just expect women to fall on their lap?<br /> <br /> Like what so intriguing is they could go to somewhere like Arizona state U and still not talk to one single girl. <br /> Even when the guys are good looking they don’t try, do they think they will be young forever ? And be able to get fresh college type of pussy once they graduate and are 35 yo?</div>

 

[kanderior]

<div class="bbWrapper">you need specific situations and circumstances where it&#039;s acceptable to talk to girls, and that usually involves having a social circle/normal social life. If you&#039;re non-NT and failed to establish those you won&#039;t find yourself in such circumstances. You can&#039;t just cold approach girls in your campus.</div>

 

[bululu_87]

<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 17411" data-quote="A23ghskung" data-source="post: 14766011" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/goto/post?id=14766011" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-14766011">A23ghskung said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> As in, they sometimes they go to school where there are literally thousands of women at any given time of the day. But dudes still won’t try talk to not one of them and after that they say they’re lonely, or when they see a cute girl while in city or a public space.<br /> <br /> Do dudes just expect women to fall on their lap?<br /> <br /> Like what so intriguing is they could go to somewhere like Arizona state U and still not talk to one single girl.<br /> Even when the guys are good looking they don’t try, do they think they will be young forever ? And be able to get fresh college type of pussy once they graduate and are 35 yo? </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote>The thing that those blue pillers don&#039;t get is that it&#039;s not just &quot;go talk to them why you complaining about being lonely&quot; to get a girl is not simply talking to her you excluded all the other factors that made him lonely in the first place such as face or bring short. Also, no, lonely men aren&#039;t dating lonely women because the reason those women are lonely is because they only want Chad and Chad isn&#039;t gonna want a subhuman like her while the reason those men are lonely is because they&#039;re not chad</div>

 

[A23ghskung]

<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 43184" data-quote="kanderior" data-source="post: 14766030" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/goto/post?id=14766030" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-14766030">kanderior said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> you need specific situations and circumstances where it&#039;s acceptable to talk to girls, and that usually involves having a social circle/normal social life. If you&#039;re non-NT and failed to establish those you won&#039;t find yourself in such circumstances. You can&#039;t just cold approach girls in your campus. </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote><br /> <br /> Just don’t try theory <blockquote data-attributes="member: 43184" data-quote="kanderior" data-source="post: 14766030" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/goto/post?id=14766030" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-14766030">kanderior said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> you need specific situations and circumstances where it&#039;s acceptable to talk to girls, and that usually involves having a social circle/normal social life. If you&#039;re non-NT and failed to establish those you won&#039;t find yourself in such circumstances. You can&#039;t just cold approach girls in your campus. </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote><br /> <br /> <br /> Guys I really need inputs from more people could participate I would appreciate it.<br /> <br /> Because honestly I’m very curious because I’m sure there is a way to collectively change things..</div>

 

[Primalsplit]

<div class="bbWrapper">Just talk to her bro.</div>

 

[kanderior]

<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 17411" data-quote="A23ghskung" data-source="post: 14766214" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/goto/post?id=14766214" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-14766214">A23ghskung said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> Just don’t try theory<br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> Guys I really need inputs from more people could participate I would appreciate it.<br /> <br /> Because honestly I’m very curious because I’m sure there is a way to collectively change things.. </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote>I&#039;m not saying you shouldn&#039;t try, just that it&#039;s hard if you failed to establish the basic psychological foundations for socializing early in your life. Or didn&#039;t manage to cultivate a good social life early in whatever environment you&#039;re in (hs, uni, work etc.).</div>

 

[Allornothing]

<div class="bbWrapper">Any man who has never been approached by a girl before is making the right decision to avoid women at all costs.</div>

 

[halfbloodaryanmaxxe]

<div class="bbWrapper">too high inhib<br /> <br /> mentalcels (me)</div>

 

[A23ghskung]

<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 43184" data-quote="kanderior" data-source="post: 14766352" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/goto/post?id=14766352" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-14766352">kanderior said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> I&#039;m not saying you shouldn&#039;t try, just that it&#039;s hard if you failed to establish the basic psychological foundations for socializing early in your life. Or didn&#039;t manage to cultivate a good social life early in whatever environment you&#039;re in (hs, uni, work etc.). </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote><br /> Ok but do dudes think their lack of social skills is ever going to fix itself ?<br /> When has something ever fixed itself ..? Why not simply try ? Why are most men passive or don’t take action ?</div>

 

[autistic_tendencies]

<div class="bbWrapper">Negative feed back loop</div>

 

[kanderior]

<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 17411" data-quote="A23ghskung" data-source="post: 14766668" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/goto/post?id=14766668" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-14766668">A23ghskung said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> Ok but do dudes think their lack of social skills is ever going to fix itself ?<br /> When has something ever fixed itself ..? Why not simply try ? Why are most men passive or don’t take action ? </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote>again I agree, but a lot of people here neglect the importance of NT and think it&#039;s 100% genetics and looks, so they end up rotting or fantasizing about surgeries. And they call you a bluepilled coper if you say that cause they can only think in extremes. Plus when you&#039;ve become a failed normie/incel and entered that cycle it&#039;s very hard to &quot;normiefy&quot; your social life and get back to some kind of normal. Especially after uni. I escaped that by the skin of my teeth and some luck, and I still have a lot of work ahead of me. Some guys unfortunately fall through the cracks, modern society is very broken.</div>

 

[socialcel]

<div class="bbWrapper">Idk man, would rather stay KHHV than have to go up to women tbh</div>

 

[socialcel]

<div class="bbWrapper">This <i><b>MIGHT </b></i>change once I ascend though</div>

 

[bloomercel]

<div class="bbWrapper">I won&#039;t be young forever, but I will be a turbomanlet forever. It&#039;s hard to explain, but if it&#039;s not happening it&#039;s not happening. You just are not that guy sometimes.</div>

 

[Deleted member 14392]

<div class="bbWrapper">If you aren&#039;t attractive, it&#039;s pointless to randomly approach women you don&#039;t know, because there&#039;s only a few ways the interaction could lead develop:<br /> <br /> <ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">She respectfully rejects you;</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">She mocks you;</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">She mocks you and now spreads to other people that you are a weirdo;</li> </ul>And honestly, the best relationships are the ones that come by happenstance. If it&#039;s supposed to happen, it happens.</div>

 

[A23ghskung]

<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 14392" data-quote="MagnusTheRed" data-source="post: 14795363" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/goto/post?id=14795363" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-14795363">MagnusTheRed said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> If you aren&#039;t attractive, it&#039;s pointless to randomly approach women you don&#039;t know, because there&#039;s only a few ways the interaction could lead develop:<br /> <br /> <ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">She respectfully rejects you;</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">She mocks you;</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">She mocks you and now spreads to other people that you are a weirdo;</li> </ul>And honestly, the best relationships are the ones that come by happenstance. If it&#039;s supposed to happen, it happens. </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote><br /> <br /> Ok I totally get where you are coming from, etc, fear of rejection, poisoning the well etc.<br /> But let’s say hypothetically that tomorrow you were to ascend to let’s say a HTN or Chadlite… how would you fix your loneliness, assuming looks is no longer an issue or barrier eventually you will need to approach girls if you wanted to get a girlfriend or ons wouldn’t you ?</div>

 

[Deleted member 14392]

<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 17411" data-quote="A23ghskung" data-source="post: 14838963" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/goto/post?id=14838963" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-14838963">A23ghskung said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> Ok I totally get where you are coming from, etc, fear of rejection, poisoning the well etc.<br /> But let’s say hypothetically that tomorrow you were to ascend to let’s say a HTN or Chadlite… how would you fix your loneliness, assuming looks is no longer an issue or barrier eventually you will need to approach girls if you wanted to get a girlfriend or ons wouldn’t you ? </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote>If looks weren&#039;t a barrier anymore, then approaching women would be a viable strategy, correct.<br /> <br /> Not in the cringe way PUAs teach, though. I would first try approaching women i have something in common and start a conversation. If the interaction is positive, then i could decide if i just wanted something casual or more.</div>

 

[itisoverboyos]

<div class="bbWrapper">Too high inhib</div>